Perhaps your partner just gets you in ways that no one else does. You’ve shared your deepest secrets and feelings, you have a cache of inside jokes, and you’ve supported one another through some tough times. But there’s one nagging thing on which you and your partner can’t seem to agree: faith.
Sociologists and psychologists report that interfaith couples experience more threats to their marital stability than same-faith couples. According to a study entitled “Religious Influence on Marriage Stability,” the divorce rate among Jewish-Gentile couples is approximately double that of marriages wherein both partners are Jewish. The study further reported, “Couples with no religious affiliation also have fairly high rates of dissolution.”
We wanted to examine the irreconcilable issues. So we asked 52 Jewish-Gentile couples to tell us about the unique challenges they faced, and we listened. Whether they were dating, married, or cohabitating, many couples were searching for a blended expression of both of their cultural upbringings that didn’t succumb to the ideological restrictions that would have them choose one faith at the expense of the other. What’s more, most couples expressed a desire for an even greater level of spirituality that included both partners.